In response to my last blog post, Your Chance of Permanent Weight Loss Increases Every Time You Fail, Former NFL player, Patrick Hape, reached out to me to share his personal thoughts on diet failure and setting goals.
I love the idea of setting small goals, so that you can achieve them. People these days want immediate gratification, like cutting grass, you get immediate gratification when you finish. Setting small goals to achieve each and every one of Skinny and Debt Free’s 33 weight loss tips is a smart way to start.
When we fail, we set a new goal to strive to achieve. After all, a goal without a plan, is just a wish. If you don’t meet your goal, set the goal again, and work harder for it. Don’t lie to yourself.
For instance, my father-in-law is an OBGYN in Louisiana, and he sees heavy people come into his office every day. They claim they are hardly eating anything and don’t understand why they are not losing weight. He encourages them to set new goals and stop lying to themselves. There is a lot of truth to Martin’s saying that successful people “only succeeded once, and it was on their very last try.”
Similarly, Michael Jordan once said, “I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
In addition to setting small goals, surrounding yourself with great people will help you reach those goals. I was lucky to play football with a lot of . Not only were my teammates great players, but they were also great people.
Coach Stallings always reminded us, “Hey man, Sir Isaac Newton always said, ‘The reason that I could see so far, is because I stood on the shoulder of giants.’ Hey men, know who your friends are, surround yourself with good people.”
It’s important to surround yourself with people who will push you further than you would push yourself. These people will hold you accountable, and you won’t want to let them down. Maurice Clarrett, one of my teammates when I played for the Denver Broncos once said, “Show me your friends, and I will show you your future.”
When setting goals, it’s helpful to have great people supporting you, but you still have to push yourself. Setting meaningful goals will help you hold yourself accountable. Overall, in order to succeed, surround yourself with good people, set goals, work hard and hold yourself accountable to avoid letting those around you down.
Patrick Hape is a financial professional for Merrill Lynch in Birmingham, AL. He works with the RPM Group, and together, they have over 100 years of combined experience. Patrick is also a former NFL fullback and tight end for the Tampa Bay Buccaneers and the Denver Broncos, respectively. He played 8 years in the NFL, 4 years under head Coach Tony Dungy, and 4 years under Head Coach Mike Shannahan. He scored the first touchdown in the first ever game in the then new stadium Invesco Field at Mile High. Patrick started his career playing football for the University of Alabama under Head Coach Gene Stallings, which is where he earned his business degree. Patrick is from Killen, AL. He is married to Jennifer Hape, and they have two children, 8-year-old son, Carson, and 5-year-old daughter, Taylor.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Patrick!
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